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Late Bloomers


I guess Avril and myself are considered late bloomers as we have recently found a new and exciting sex life, having seen the last of our 3 children marry and leave the nest.

We had always talked about having sex with a third party and used the fantasy as part of our foreplay in the rare moments we had our privacy in our own home or whilst on holiday. I must admit that it was me who instigated the fantasy each time , as for years I would simply dream to watch Avril being fucked by another a guy. This being so ,Avril would get so turned by our fantasy that deep down I knew she would to love to experience the swinging scene.

Dont get me wrong Avril is a lovely sweet petite redhead with a very trim figure and sex has always been good between us over the years, but , and I hope I am not alone here, she has never experienced an orgasm with my penetration alone. I always satisfied her orally or with toys while we were screwing and somtimes I felt well being just over 5 1/2 inches , perhaps size does matter.

Well having now found time and privacy on hands we began to experience a new and bigger appetite for sex. Avril became very vocal both when we fucked and even in our foreplay. It was now she who instigated the discussion of how she would like me to watch her being fucked and then for me to fuck her straight after the other guy.One day we were sunbathing in the garden and Avril went topless - after 3 children I am so proud her petite breasts remain as firm as ever with enormous nipples a sight to behold in the bright sunshine. It was time for another refill of drinks so I went inside to get them and to use the toilet. As I came back to the sun beds I noticed out of the corner my eye, movement from our neighbours upstairs window. Jim was a widower for the last five years and a very, very nice and genuine person in his early sixties.

As I laid down on the bed I mentioned this to Avril who immediately replied that shed often noticed him doing it when she laid out before and it wasnt a problem, in fact she said sometimes she thought about going totally naked as not only would she get turned by doing so but it may give him that extra treat. A mixture of sun and drink led me to say go ahead an do it - as I too felt it would be such a turn on. At first she giggled and said no , but when she saw the rampant bulge in my shorts , she said why not and stood and slowly removed them giving both Jim and me a real treat. She laid back down and we talked and flirted for a while, until she asked was he still there and to my great relief he was and very visible , as if he wanted us to know he was watching.

Lets give him a real treat said Avril and beckoned me to rub sun oil into back - to which in a flash I was up and gently massaging the oil all over her as she laid on her stomach. Doing so I was whispering our sex talk fantasy in her ear and asked if she would liked to be fucked by Jim. To this she said nothing but just smiled and turned on her back for me to apply the oil to those pert little Breasts.

Massaging the breasts and tweaking those nipples soon made her become even more hotter and she whispered for me to fuck her there and then knowing that Jim was still watching. I just smiled and dropped my shorts in seconds which was a great relief to my now aching cock. Moving towards her , she just opened her legs wide revealing that very well trimmed and tight pussy and said just fuck me straight away - put it in deep and hard. She was so wet that I entered her in one thrust and just held it there. Her moans were as loud as ever as she begged to be fucked and I slowly moved in and out at the same time whispering that Jim was watching and how Id like to do the same. Within a few seconds I felt her pussy tighten like I never felt before and to my surprise Avril was coming. She was coming so quick and strong that I too could not hold back and shot my load deep into her as she peaked and screamed at the same time. This was the first time she had orgasmed by my cock alone and I was so emotional at the pleasure she got from it that I started to cry.

We kissed and embraced for sometime and then remembered about Jim - as I looked up at the window, he was nowhere to be seen, I hoped he had seen it all.

Well that afternoon we were still so horny and Avril asked would I really mind if Jim fucked her - to which I just kissed her and said sure, as soon as you want - I just love to watch. Lets invite him for dinner tonight she said and make our fantasies come true.

I was out of the door in a flash and knocking on our neighbours door. Jim eventually opened the door and seemed somewhat embarassed and guilty, but I just ignored it and quckly gave him the invite to which he immediately accepted.

Back with Avril - she just beamed , patted my crouch and said she was going to shower and start preparing the food. Jim turned up on time still looking somewhat sheepish and carrying a small well wrapped package , which he gave to Avril for supplying the meal.Avril was wearing just shorts and a very loose top which hid nothing and gave us all a glimpse of her breasts each time she leant over to pass the dishes.

We all ate and drank well and Jim was his usual nice and pleasent self but there did seem to be an air of sexual tension. I looked at Avril who just smiled at me, and as bold as brass asked Jim if he enjoyed the show this afternoon.

After a slight pause , Jim just smiled and said it made an old man very happy and brought back fondest memories, so much so that in his package , which was still unopened was a gift meant for his late wife - but she never had the chance use. He said he hoped that Avril would find good use for it.

To this Avril fetched and opened the package to reveal a pair of finest silk French Knickers and matching Bra. A tear came to Jims eye as Avril went and kissed him on the cheek and thanked him for the lovely gift.

I looked and smiled at Avril and said to Jim would he like to see what they looked liked on - too which he looked at Avril for agreement who was already removing her top.

Jim let out a gasp at her breasts and watch with joy as she removed her panties to to slowly put on the French knickers giving us all a view of her now dripping pussy. Jim was speechless and I too was amazed at how gentle and confidently Avril was handling this. Avril became obviously very hot as the silk slid up her thigh and she walked towards to Jim and said would you like to feel the material. He nodded profusely and as he did so she leant over and kissed his forehead gently while letting her breast hang in full view in his face. Jim looked up and immediately began to suck on one nipple then the other.

I was in absolute heaven and a raging bulge bursting to be released.They continued like this for a few minutes with Avril becomming more and more turned on and groaning at his every touch. She moved to sit astride him in his chair while he continue to such here now extended nipples. With one hand she reached behind him to stroke his cock and and undo his zip. With what seemed like ages she managed to remove the largest cock I have ever seen. I t must have been a good 8 inches and still quite flacid. She postioned it and rubbed it against her pussy through the silk material and then to my surprise and the moment I had always dreamed of Jim moved aside the material and Avril slowly started to push it into her herself.It was going in gradually as was still very soft but going in it was.. What a fabulous sight. Jim started to push up whilst Avril pushed down and gradually he started to become harder and thicker. Avril gasped in pure exctasy as he pushed in as deep as he could go and then almost immediately he started to cum. Both he and Avril went rigid as he exploded buckets of cum into her and twice in the same day Avril exploded into orgasm while being fucked.

As I watched them slowly cool down - I removed my cock and started to stroke it slowly - the pre cum already running across my fingers.I watched as Avril stood up with the sheer delight of seeing Jims cum drip from her as she walked towards me. She took my cock in her mouth and gently licked the pre cum and then pulled me to the floor, with her legs astride in that beautifull fashion of hers. She guide my cock direct to her cum filled pussy and I was in deep and I was in heaven. I shot my load in seconds with the most intense orgasm ever and added to her already filled pussy.

Withdrawing my now limp and exhasuted cock I moved down to smell the sexual arome of Avrils pussy and began to lick her well deserved pussy - pausing occasionaly to swallow her juices as they flowed. Jim by now had come over to suck and caress her nipples once more and it was not too long before she exploded into one long and lingering mind blowing orgasm.


We just sat about talking for a while and when it was time to leave Jim thanked us profusely for bringing back so many good memories and kissed Avril so sweetly as he left that again it brought tears to my eyes.

We retired to bed and cuddled just knowing that words could not express the enjoyment and new lease of life we had just experienced and was about to live.

Hope you enjoy this true story.
 
 
#2
 
Sixsome Weekend with Friends
Notes from my wife, before we were a couple she would have sixsome weekends with friends. Susan writes from 2002:

I wanted to get some of this down while it was fresh in my mind. It's important for me to say we always play smart, which means all the intercourse in this story was with condoms:

So we’re having dinner and of course the questions go to Kevin and Kate. Kevin admits he actually took one quarter of a valium pill before coming over to relax him because he was really worried about watching Kate have sex with another man for the first time.

Instead he watched her first sexual partner be me. Then his friend Michael was next and he knew he didn’t have to worry how Michael would treat his wife. ”And “ as he explained,”Her saying, ‘more, more. more’ pretty much said he was treating her really, really well.” Everyone smiled at that.

What he didn't expect was how enthusiastic they’d both be and thanked us for providing a positive environment for sex. He admitted to Karen letting him sneak away from her and seeing Kate blowing Michael while Tom was doing her and was at first taken back,” But, she was so into it, so willingly enjoying it, the jealousy faded away and made things even more okay for me.”

I asked Kate her thoughts when her husband finally got to having intercourse with her, the first time this evening. She was adamant,” Oh my God, it was like a total rush of sex, energy and emotion,” When he entered me it was like everything I had done tonight was alright, everything I’d be doing in the future was alright. Sex with Kevin just took down the final barriers in my mind and it was pure liberation.”

Michael chimed in,”If you had barriers earlier, we’re all dead men now.” Everyone laughed really hard at that comment.

Kate then stood up next to her seated husband. "In celebration of OUR liberation,” she looked at Kevin directly. “Unzip my dress lover,” Kevin grinned and complied. She undid her hair which gently fell over her shoulders.Kate then turned around gently kissed her husband , pointed to his chest, finger resting on it firmly and said,”Pick a victim.” All she wore now were black thigh highs and she looked great.

“Oh, it’s got to be Michael.”

“Oh, Michael, my Michael, “ Kate strolled over, she straddled him in his chair, “You ready to make me happy?” She looked directly into his eyes as he nodded a smiling ,” Yes. ”She cupped his face in her hands and kissed him deeply,”He writhed against her and Kate started massaging his crotch and unzipping his pants. Michael clutched her nearly naked body to him, rubbing and stroking her ass. Kate was ballet dancer, lithe with a killer ass. She was great for sex because she was light and easily moved around and I speak from personal experience.

Seeing Kate’s naked body writhing against Michael’s clothed one was like watching a really great looking stripper give the lap dance of the century, which sort of what was going on. She pulled Kevin's hard cock out of his pants and slid down on it embracing him even more strongly crying out,”You are such a rush !” Michael immediately started pumping her, his chair rocking.

I have to admit , I’m not much of a voyeur, but this was just plain fun to watch. I don’t know what Kate was like before tonight, but she, really likes sex. She’s bouncing, whooping it up and making the boy work for it and he ain’t complaining. Plus, she has to have one of the smoothest skinned backs I’ve ever seen.

She’s now bouncing in one hard bounce after another and Michaels’ giving as good as he’s getting, bucking upwards, and Kate starts to orgasm. You can see her whole body shudder with gooseflesh. And she keeps riding him, her body shaking with every thrust of his hips upwards into her.

Now, for a first, Kate collapses exhausted onto Michael. It was the first time she had shown any sexual fatigue. She breathlessly exclaims, ”I ...can’t... go.. any ...longer.” He’s in the chair, she’s in his lap and just nuzzled against him. “Kevin,” she says,”You have a wonderful friend here.” She has this great glow of an exhausted woman who’s been properly laid and it’s great.

At this point , Tom takes me by the hand and says,”Okay, I’m all charged up.” He leads me to my bedroom, my clothing falling by the wayside as we go. Not that I was wearing all that much.

Tom is wonderful in that he just doesn’t lick pussy, he eats pussy. He has a pillow under my tush and his mouth is gently and completely over my pussy and licking away with his flat , wicked, driving me crazy tongue.

There’s this small area of skin between the bottom edge of my pussy and the edge of my asshole. Tom starts tonguing it and it just send a charge through me. My back arches in a surge and he holds the top of my thighs pulling me down against his mouth. I’m squirming and now he’s just lapping me up and licking my asshole too.” Oh god !” I was over the edge now, he was licking my pussy and rubbing my clitoris and just pushed a finger up my ass. I was writhing and whimpering and in complete surrender to him. I need a mouth to kiss so badly I was going crazy, then I felt a finger sliding along my breast and lips firmly on my mouth. It was Karen, just who I needed. Her kisses are always loving and tongue wonderful and she was giving me all that I wanted. I was going nuts from all my nerves exploding, drunk with endorphins, I’d do anything they wanted at this point.

Karen starts licking my breasts until their glistening from her tongue. She’s kissing my neck and mouth and back again. What a rush. I was letting her and Tom just have me, and by golly they were pretty good at it. I love teeth against my neck and Karen was doing wonderfully. Her hand slid down between my breasts, along my stomach and between my legs. I could feel her fingers and Tom’s tongue against my clitoris. Then Tom licked even more and she curled her fingers into me and Tom pressed his finger deeper into my ass. My body surged with a whimpering ,’mmmmmmmmm’ from me. Karen then kissed me deeply again, sliding her tongue into my mouth, silencing my quivering moans. I was hers as her fingertips curved deeper into me and she pumped me with her hand.

My eyes closed, felt Karen’s mouth and tongue gently slide over and the head of a cock against my mouth. I just opened my mouth and started sucking it deeply when I heard,” Take Kevin home girlfriend,” and I just started taking him in deeper as Tom’s tongue was making me squirm and whimper with pleasure.

Kevin came, precum making my tongue slippery and then the deluge. I just gulped him up. I gulped him deep. I heard,”Oh god,” over and over from him as I drank him up. I finally collapsed back exhausted. Tom gave me a break from his tongue-lashing. He rolled me over, he just loves fucking me when I’m exhausted. He knows that I won’t tell him to stop either, it’s our little game. I’ve made him suffer too, getting him hard and having sex when he thinks he can’t go any longer. He’s about to enter my pussy when I say , ”No, No. Take it up a notch.” Tom shook my hips and said,”I was so hoping for this,” I was about to be butt fucked . He presses his cock against my asshole and lubes it up. He doesn’t push in, I push back into him. I take his cock as I can and he’s wonderful and patient as I ease him deeper and deeper until he’s in me full. “Rock my world,” I say and we start pumping into each other.

Sometimes sex is so intense that time seems to change speed. Stop , accelerate and back again. Tom was plunging his cock deep into my ass and I just wanted more. Some women aren’t built well for anal sex, but as a friend of mine said,”Susan. You are built for speed.” Tom was giving me a grand thrashing and I just wanted more. I’m biting on the sheets to keep from screaming. I came so hard, again, then I felt his cock shudder inside me and we both collapsed.

We were now side by side spooning on the bed. Tom embraced me and whispered,”You’re always just what I need in bed.” We fell asleep.
 
 
#3
First MFM Threesome


This is my first story so I should explain why it’s written as it is. My girlfriend and I are both in college and this was our first experience of any kind other then with just the two of us. Additionally, this was my first encounter with another guy and it drove her absolutely nuts. In fact, she liked our first threesome experience so much that she was constantly asking me to recreate it while we were in bed, so finally I decided to just write an extremely detailed account of what happened for her reading pleasure. And now I am sharing it with you. Enjoy!

It’s a fall Friday night and I’m taking you out to your first frat party with a couple of our friends. We all are at my apartment before hand, pre-gamming. Once we all feel good and “ready,” we head out and take the bus down to college and hop off at the southeast corner of campus and head up to my friend’s frat house. After walking a bit tipsy down past a few other houses, we reach his frat, a huge white building with a 2-story entrance (sorry can’t remember the name right now!) I call his cell and he meets us outside and takes us in the back and straight to the bar.

You and I and our friends all get drinks and head to the “party room.” As we head up to the first floor you hear incredible bass pounding and thousands of voices talking. It grows louder and louder as the lights from the basement darken and darken. Soon we reach the top and find ourselves in a sea of people illuminated only by the occasionally colorful flash from the DJ’s wall of effects lights.

After socializing for a minute and drinking quite a bit more, I agree to go dance with you. You look so beautiful in your mini skirt and little shirt. I watch you for a minute as your begin to pulse your hips to the music and fall deep into the crowd. I follow you in and begin to rock back and forth to the music with you. We spend what seems like hours dancing and drinking and meeting people. The more drunk we get, the more turned on we get and the more pressure we put between each other. You can feel my penis growing against you and you rub me back and forth twisting and turning your hips. It gets bigger and bigger as we get hotter and wetter.

As we dance I slowly move you in the dark towards a wall and though you can barely see me in the dark sea of people, you know what I’m thinking and I know you’re thinking the same thing. Suddenly you feel the wall against your back and through it you feel the pulsing of the deep vibrating bass. We continue to grind against one another as we begin heavily making out. My hands are all over you and my tongue deep inside your mouth. I take both my hands and rub both your breasts as I continue rubbing my pelvis against yours.

In the dark, you make out the outlines of the other hundreds of people all grinding and making out as you feel my hand leave your breast and make its way down your smooth stomach. As we make out and dance against the vibrating wall, I continue moving my hand down the outside of your skirt until I reach the end. Eagerly you push your hips out practically begging my fingers to find their way to your perfect vagina, which is nearly soaking wet with anticipation at this point. Skillfully (of course), I pull your thong aside and begin rubbing my fingers in long strokes back and forth in your tight wet vagina. Our tongues intertwine and you start rubbing my penis (which is now hugely erect and throbbing for you).

Wasting no time you unzip my fly and pull it out and I grasp it and begin rubbing it against your clit in place of my fingers. No one can see what’s going on, nor hear the groans in the thunderous ocean of people, music, fog and flashing colored lights. Finally, you arch back and I slide deep inside of you, forcing myself all the way to your end as our legs press together. Using your skirt to form a bond between our bodies, I begin grinding with you to the pumping music, while surreptitiously pumping myself deep in and out of you.

I don’t want to cum in you just yet so I quickly pull out. I can tell you’re disappointed, but I want to save some for later. So I tell you I’m going to grab us more beers and I’ll be right back. While I’m gone, you’re stuck in this place of heightened pleasure dying for a release, but of course you’re not going to just finger yourself right there.

Well, as is the case in frats, a hot lonely girl doesn’t go unnoticed for long. Out of the crowd comes a guy you’re sure you’ve seen before. He is well built and you find him quite attractive (though not as attractive as me of course). He asks if you’re in the same class and though you cant quite pinpoint it, you instantly recognize him. You’re kinda drunk (to say the least) and start drunk blabbering about this and that. Abruptly, he asks if you wanna dance while you talk and since that’s what you’ve been waiting to do, you say yes without thinking.

You both start moving back and forth with some space between each other. In the dark you begin to let yourself go to the music again and the alcohol helps you forget where you are and who you’re with. In the dark you feel his hands caress up and down your bare arms as the music gets louder and louder. It feels really nice to be touched so gently, and you move in a bit closer. As you both continue to dance, you move closer and closer until you occasionally begin to rub against one another. As you grove back and forth, you spin around so your back is to him and you slowly move closer back to him as you pump your hips side to side. Every so often you feel a bulge brush against your ass and you know what it is. As you keep dancing, getting closer and hotter and begin putting pressure against this hot guy, you see me in a flash of light looking at you with two beers in my hands.

Wide eyed, you back away from him realizing what you were doing but I seem strangely calm. I motion at you to be nice and at least finish the song with him. Confused but very happy with this acceptance, you turn back to him before he even realizes what you were doing or looking at. Its not even a minute until you realize maybe this is curiously turning me on a bit to see what you look like from another angle.

I watch you sway your beautiful self skillfully against his body and quite frankly it’s a bit arousing. I drink my beer as I look at the way your bodies are pressed together and see his pants slowly expand as your sexy body moves and begins to give him an erection. As the DJ cross-fades into the next song, I come over to you and you step away from him and I introduce myself. He says very politely and apologetic that he didn’t mean to hit on her realizing that we’re going out and I say it’s totally fine. She can have fun without me too, sometimes. I invite him to keep dancing with you, but I want to join in too.

As the song fades in with the bass pounding and people all around us shaking and grinding and making out, I press my body to your front and him to your back. You feel so loved as the attention is entirely on you, in-between two hot guys rubbing themselves against you on both sides. As we grind in a sandwich you spin around and give me your ass and him your front, constantly changing. You feel both of our erections and know it’s because of you that we’re so turned on. We finish out the song and after saying our “nice to meet you’s and see you later’s” I am so turned on that I insist we leave so I can have you all to myself at my apartment.

It is the most painful bus ride home, as all I want to do is be deep inside you. I long to lick you and kiss you and make love to you, and the vibrations of the engine are certainly not helping anything. Once we finally get there, we hop off the bus and head straight for my building. However, as we pass the office, we hear a “well hello again.” We both turn around and there he is walking in our direction. We both smile and I ask if he lives here. As it turns out he does and by chance decided to leave at the same time. We reintroduce ourselves and he apologizes again, but I remind him it’s fine. He seems like a very nice guy so I ask what he’s doing now, and if he wants to hang out for a bit. He’s very happy to be invited over and gladly accepts.

As we walk back to my apartment, you get a better view of him in the streetlight. He’s more attractive then you realized at first. He’s toned with a nice ass, with a muscular upper body and smooth attractive face. Once we’re back in my place, we all sit down on the couches and I make us drinks. We talk for quite a while about ourselves, where we’re from and what we do up here. The more we drink, the more friendly and open we get. Somehow we get into a discussion of what kind of porn is best, and I ask him if he ever heard the thing about how guys produce the most sperm to MMF porn. He knows what I’m talking about and we discuss why that is, from an evolutionary standpoint. He then asks if guys like girl on girl action so much, why don’t you like guy on guy? You admit you’ve never really seen it, but you are intrigued. Surprised he tells you how he knows a bunch of girls who get off to nothing but guy on guy, and I recall hearing the same thing from a few friends too.

After a somewhat heated discussion, you say you’re kinda bored and want to do something fun. Jokingly I ask if you want to look at porn, and he jumps in asking if maybe you just want to make your own. You smile and say no, but maybe something along those lines. You admit it’s a bit childish, but you ask if we want to play truth or dare. In actuality, you’ve been growing more and more attracted to him as we’ve been talking, and you’re looking for an excuse to feel his body, and maybe even kiss him. He and I say that’s fine, but not until I get more drinks.

Once, I come back ad we drink up, we’re all feeling mostly drunk and quite happy. We all sit in a circle on the floor, with him on your left, and me on your right. He asks the first question to you, asking if you’ve ever hooked up with a girl. You proudly respond that you have a couple times, and you liked it. We laugh and you ask the next question. You ask him if he’s ever hooked up with another guy and suddenly he gets very reserved. After a moment of hesitation he admits a couple things have happened with him but with an embarrassed smile, refuses to go into detail. For his question, he asks me if I’ve ever done anything with another guy, hoping to remove the attention from him. After a second of hesitation, I explain that I had a few experiences when I was younger, but I, too, keep it vague.

It’s your turn again. You want to see a bit more, and you dare him to take his shirt off. He complies and exposes his muscular chest and hard abs. I respond with a dare for you to take your shirt off. Happily you pull your shirt up over your head and unclasp your bra, showing off your beautiful breasts. Trying to even the score, he immediately shoots back a dare for me to take of my shirt. As I pull off my shirt, showing off my muscular chest and arms and stomach, I catch him eyeing me up before quickly turning away. What a nice night so far, with too very hot sexy boys sitting half naked with you in the warm summer breeze coming through the windows. There’s not much order to this game now and you ask him a truth question.

You ask him if he ever thinks about doing stuff with a guy, and I can immediately tell what you have on your mind. He says he can’t lie, he has thought about it, but quickly turns the attention to me and asks what about me? I look at you and smile cause I can’t lie about this, and admit that I have indeed thought about it. I decide it’s time to remove more clothes and I dare him to take your skirt off for you. Happily he crawls over to you and very sensually pulls your skirt down to your ankles. Feeling a bit unfair, you dare both of us to take our pants off. We oblige and both stand up to slide our pants down over our boxers and step out of them. Before sitting back down, I can’t help but notice a growing bulge in his pants, and I’m very sure he notices mine too.

Once we sit back down, I ask him if he wants to kiss you and ask you if you want him to kiss you. He says he would and you say you would let him, clearly hiding both of your excitement, and then I finish by daring you to do it. You both kneel forward and meet in the center as your eyes close. You feel his thick lips touch to yours and suddenly a flash of excitement and pleasure flows through you as you feel these new lips. After a few sensual pecks, you slide your tongue between your pursed lips and part his lips. Gladly he receives your kiss and his tongue finds yours. Within moments, you move from gently kissing to making out, and I’m quite turned on seeing the way your mouth moves against his. After your tongues intertwine for a good minute, you move back down, slowly pulling your tongue from his mouth, and smile with delight.

Feeling kind of bad, he dares us to make out. Oh, what a dare! You do the same, kneeling in my direction, and repeat the scene. This time, however, you are more forward, exploring this familiar mouth. We kiss for a good minute as well and then I move back and we smile to each other. There’s a bit of silence. You take another drink. You look at us and ask if we remember when we were talking about if you had ever seen guy on guy action. Of course we remember, but why? You’re very (almost surprisingly) aroused by our two hot naked bodies in such close proximity and you’re thinking about that story I once wrote and what we once talked about. You grow hotter and hotter, debating whether or not to ask. You decide it’s what you want. Shyly, you tell us that you would like to see some now.

We’re both sort of confused but also a little excited, and we look at each other and shrug. He asks what you would like to see. Thinking for a second, you tell us to do whatever we want with each other- to do whatever feels good to each other, and you will watch. I can see the anticipation in your eyes as you move to the couch. I stand up, and he stands up in front of me; we’re nearly the exact same height. We are face to face in nothing but our boxers. The light from the outside dimly illuminates the muscles of our very hot bodies. As we stand face to face, our eyes are at the same level. I can tell he’s dying to do something, but neither of us will make the first move.

You seem to notice both of our hesitation and suggest we help each other out of our boxers. He anxiously accepts, and I can tell he’s been dying to have a guy to play with as he hurriedly steps in and puts his hands on my hips. I admit, I too, am very excited to see where this goes. Slowly, he uses his whole body to slip my boxers down to my ankles. The elastic band of the waist slides down, pulling my growing penis down until it’s released, and I’m a bit embarrassed as it pops up at him. After I step my naked body out of my boxers, he doesn’t seem to mind one bit as the swelled head brushes the side of his face on his way back up. As he ascends back up, he seems to check out my penis and his hands never leave my body, constantly caressing and feeling.

My turn. As I lower his boxers, I keep my face provocatively close to his erection, which is pushing straight through his boxers. Once they’re down to his knees, his erection springs out at my face and I take a moment to look at it. I’m surprised at how thick it is. It’s not quite as long as mine but maybe even more bulky. I can tell he shudders in hope that it might come in contact with my lips as I stand back up, but I just graze right by it on my way back up, massaging his legs just like he did for me. Now we stand naked face-to-face and you watch with extreme anticipation and excitement, gently rubbing yourself (which is what you should be doing right now) as you see our large penises fully erect almost begging to play with each other.

He places his hands on my shoulders and lightly brushes down and back up my arms with his fingertips. I stand there with my eyes closed for a moment, enjoying the cautious touch massage before deciding to return the favor. I place my hands on his bare chests and bush my palms past his pecks, touching his nipples, and down to his abs. He steps in closer. His hands move to my back, continuing to feel up and down so lightly as I move my hands around to his sides and up and down his hips. He places his cheek next to mine as his hands massage their way down my lower back and to my ass. He takes a handful of my tight hard ass and squeezes me with both hands and begins to rub around. I move in closer and as I do, I feel his hot penis stroke against mine. He continues and steps in once more until my penis is forced against his and slides up his hard abs, and as it rubs upward on him, I feel his thick penis press against my abs and slide up in the same way until our chests are touching and our penises are pressed against one another in between us.

I can feel his pulse throbbing through his hot penis against mine and I reach down his back and begin to feel his hard ass. As we massage each other and apply more and more pressure between our hips, I place my lips to his neck and begin to gently kiss his neck up and down. You’ve never seen something this hot, as two strong hot guys so gently touching each other as their huge erections are pressed against one another, and balls rub against one another. As I continue to lick his neck, he does the same to me and we continue massaging each other, briefly sliding our hands down to our openings, taking a quick feel, and pulling back out.

After a minute of this sensual massaging, he steps back allowing our erections to spring back down and very cautiously moves his lips to mine. I’m a bit reserved at first, but I can tell he’s very excited about this. He holds my lower back and I hold his biceps as we begin to kiss very gently. Just closed mouth kisses at first, it feels so different then any girl. As we kiss and get a bit more into it, he begins to rock his hips back and forth rubbing his shaft against mine. You think you might orgasm at the sight of our perfect penises rubbing against one another as we hold our muscular bodies together and kiss. As his tongue finds its way gently through my lips, I feel his fingers find their way down to my pubic area and start to play around ever so lightly. As we kiss more and more into it, his hands begin to stroke my penis with the skill only another guy could have, knowing exactly what to do and where to go.

As I feel his fingertips probing the head and opening of my throbbing erection, I slide my hands down his chest and through his neatly trimmed pubic hair to his thick pulsing penis, dying for a feel too. I slowly wrap my fingers around his thick penis and it feels so good to have its heat pulsing in my hand. I can feel him clench it with delight as he feels my touch. We both gently stroke each other and occasionally rub the very sensitive heads of our pulsing penises against one another. Slowly he moves downward, continuing to play with me, and I keep my hands on him, stroking my way up his abs and his chest and up to his neck. He takes his hands and continues to stroke my enormous throbbing penis as he positions it in front of his face. He takes a minute to examine it, seeming very impressed with it. Then, ever so gently his tongue comes out of his lips and touches the very tip.

You watch as he curiously licks very lightly around the head and to the sides, tasting my eager erection for the first time. He returns to the head and places just the very tip in his mouth and sucks on it for just a moment as a droplet of my pre-cum drips onto his excited tongue. He continues to gently suck it in for just seconds until removing it and sliding his way back up to my mouth and continues kissing me. The wet head of my penis once again slides against his hard abs as we kiss once more. But suddenly, he pulls his mouth away from mine and takes me by the waist and slowly guides my naked body around so my back is to him. He reaches around the front and continues to massage my penis, making sure to reach down to my balls to rub them too, and with his other hand, begins to guide his thick penis up and down between my legs.

I reach behind me and find his penis and continue to stroke it and as I do this, he presses his chest against my back, and starts to lick my neck again. I can feel his heart beating quickly against my back and his pulsing penis massaging my ass. He can’t help the excited release of pre-cum onto me and as he continues to rub the hot wet bulging head of his penis up and down me, I gasp with pleasure as I feel it find its way to my opening and begin to press against me, and I continue to stroke him and rub his balls even harder behind me. I feel him start to apply more pressure between his thick pulsing head and my opening.

You watch this rapidly increasing sensual display of rubbing and touching, you’re so wet since you’ve been rubbing yourself through all this and are dying for attention of your own. Simultaneously, I’m dying to play with you too, and ask you to join us. Excitedly you come over to us as I turn around and pull you in between us. As I begin to passionately make out with you, he pulls your thong down to your ankles and traces his tongue back up the inside of your thigh, stroking past your vagina and up your back. As I make out with you, you feel both of our huge erect penises rubbing against you on both sides, this time naked unlike in the frat house, as he massages your breasts from behind you.

As I kiss you, I take my penis and start to rub it all around your clit, and getting the idea, he takes his penis and begins doing the same to the back of your vagina. You are in ecstasy as you feel our two giant throbbing penis heads massing your wet vagina all around. Then I take you and roll you down to the ground so that you’re lying on your back and immediately we both kneel on each side of you. He picks up quickly and we both move our mouths to your breasts creating a whirlwind of pleasure. You moan in pure delight as your feel our tongues twist and twirl around your erect nipples. To make things better, we spread your legs and put one of each of our legs in between you and our hands meet at your vagina.

As I begin to rub you up and down around your opening, he rubs circles around your clit. As our two tongues are all over your breasts and hands all over your vagina, you reach down to find our penises. Though mine is familiar, you are surprised at how thick his is too. You feel it throbbing in your fingers and begin stroking up and down. Our hands are all over each other, tongues all over you. After a minute or so of this, we both begin working our way with our tongues down from your breasts and to your stomach and further.

Finally, we spread your legs even more and both put our bodies in between them and our faces join up again as we share in a three way kiss with your clit. Waves of pleasure flow through you as two hard tongues work all around your clit and in and out of you. As we lick you, his hand finds my penis and continues stroking it and I do the same to him. We are all in such incredible pleasure with two tongues all around and in your tight perfect vagina, and his hand stroking my huge erection, and mine on his. We stay locked in this position for several minutes until finally I move back

As I move away, he repositions himself in between your legs and you’re dying for penetration. I come around next to you and kneel beside you and begin rubbing you clit in one hand, and his penis in the other. As I jerk him off and masturbate you harder and harder, you are both dying to be together and so I guide his thick pulsing erection to your sopping wet opening and he takes over sliding it deep within you. It doesn’t go as far as mine but the thickness is spreading you out more causing a wild new feeling. As you begin to moan and groan with pleasure, I bend down and begin licking your clit and his shaft back and forth. I stick my tongue firmly at the top of your entrance, pressing down on both your clit and the top of his shaft, creating a ridiculously heightened pleasure for both of you. As I do this and he fucks you harder and harder, I move my penis over to your mouth and move myself into a 69 position with you. I start fucking your mouth with my enormous throbbing penis and you suck me in so deeply as I continue licking both of you.

After minutes of pumping and sucking and fucking, he begins to breath very heavily and groans. I begin to rub his balls and lick you even harder. Suddenly you begin shaking into orgasm as he begins pumping his load into you and seeing this sends me off into orgasm too. I lean up and as you furiously jerk me off, I cum on your stomach as I groan and sigh with pleasure. Once we can’t pump anymore, we all fall back and sigh with satisfaction.
  
#4
My Birthday Present


My wife came home after work, beaming to talk to me about her idea for my upcoming birthday present. Turning 29, I’ve wanted a lot and there were alot of things I desired. This birthday wouldn’t be much different then years past, but I really had no idea what to expect.

I wasn’t looking forward to going to work, overnight shift, and I hadn’t got any sleep yet to be rested for it. My wife wanted to do something in the evening, so we sent the kids to Grandma’s for the night. I asked her what she wanted to do or where she wanted to go, but she had no idea and hadn’t time to make plans. I offered to call a friend of mine up and the 2 of them could go out and get a drink or something. She thought it would be a good idea, so I made the call and found she wasn’t doing anything either, just sitting around at her friend’s while he had a little party with his buddies. So I arranged for my wife to pick her up in an hour and I was going to lie down and grab a couple hours of shut eye.

I told my wife that my friend was going to put on some makeup and dress up to go out. My wife exploded at this point. What the hell? I’ve been working all day and now I have to get dressed up, and put on make-up! Needless to say, it took awhile to calm her down and get her ready to go out. Still I hadn’t slept a wink. Once she was dressed to go out, make-up on, she looked so sexy. I didn’t even think about sleeping now. You sure you don’t want to just call your night off and spend some quality time with me? I can take the night off work if it’s okay with you. Then she gazed at me with her intoxicating eyes, I have a much better idea, she said.

Leaning over to breathe on my neck, she smelled so good. She whispered, I have an idea if you think you’re up for it. Instantly I was getting hard. Do you think you can get your friend to join us tonight? That’s my idea for your birthday present. I’ll let you have sex with her. Well, I didn’t need my rubber arm twisted. I hadn’t really flirted with girls before, and only been on a few dates before getting seriously involved with my wife. So I didn’t know where or how to begin, plus I hadn’t really spent a whole lot of time with my friend so I didn’t have any idea how to accomplish this task. But I was up for the challenge.

Since I had told my friend that I was going to work, and for her to get away from her friends for a girl’s night out, I sent my wife to get her and bring her back home where I would inform them that my work called and then didn’t need me to come in for my shift. When they arrived I was naturally upset that I couldn’t go to work and now had no idea what to do. We may as well sit here and have a drink to figure out what was going to happen. Do you guys mind if I tag along for your night out? Of course, my wife jumped in and said that it might be fun having me with them. So it was settled. Where were we to go then? My wife called up one of her friends, a lady who sells lingerie from her house, and we decided to bring my friend over to have a look through some.

The shopping trip didn’t take long but my friend did come out with a nice top and sexy thong. Then we returned back home for another drink and to think about where else we could go for a drink. My wife isn’t much of a drinker and she was the designated driver so she just drank water while I loaded up the fruit juice with vodka for my friend and I. I have an idea, trying to sound as nonchalant as possible, why don’t we go out of town to a strip club we occasionally visit? It is a little-known strip club of the “hands-on” variety. The kind most woman would reject to going to, but my wife spoke up quickly, hey that would be a great idea. Do you mind? She asked my friend. She was up for going pretty much anywhere. So the plan was set and off we went. Twenty minutes later we were knee deep in 30 beautiful women baring all and dancing on the stage and mingling with the desperate men and passing truckers. There I was with a girl on each side and a drink in my hand, I wonder how the boys are doing at work tonight?

We talked about getting a dancer to go into the VIP lounge for a private dance. Oh you two go get one, my wife suggested, we’ve had a dance together before. I flagged down a dancer and we went to the back, my friend on my arm. This was great, I couldn’t keep my mind focused, because I knew what the night may have in store. During the lap-dance, my hands began to explore the dancer, and casually on my friend as well. My friend noticed my gentle groping of the dancer and blurted out “What are you doing? I thought you weren’t allowed to touch the strippers!” To this the dancer leaned over us both and explained, “If you ask me if you can touch me, then I have to tell you it’s not allowed…” She had such a sweet devilish smile, and my friend figured out what she meant. Well, one dance turned into another, then another dancer for another couple songs, and then we were pretty tipsy when my wife asked if we’d mind going back to our place so she could start catching up with the drinking. We all agreed and in no time we were back in our living room each of us with a stiff drink in hand.

My friend felt like dancing, “wouldn’t it be exciting being a stripper? But I don’t have the body for it”. I could tell she was a little horny from our shared lap-dances. “Well show me what you can do, if you’d like. I think you look very sexy.” I told her. She was about 5’6” and was very skinny. She weighed only about 100 pounds, and I’ve always been turned on by skinny women. Her brown hair was very long and straight and she slowly began to dance on my hardwood living room floor. She pulled the sides of her thong up over her tight low-rider jeans and I thought it was a pretty sexy first attempt at a strip tease.

We started to talk so I lit some candles and we sat on the floor. I slid up behind her to put my legs around her to rub and massage her back. She didn’t object and I think it helped that my wife was sitting across from her, completely okay with the situation. We must have spent a good couple hours just talking when my wife said it was getting pretty late. I leaned close and said to her, and within earshot of my wife, why don’t we go upstairs to the bedroom. There were no objections, so up we went. Wow was I excited. I paced my drinking all night just to make sure I could perform if needed and I was starting to think I was going to make my greatest fantasy come true.

We got on the bed and I took off my shirt, and lay down in the middle. My wife was on one side, my friend on the other. They were laying on me so we could all talk. The chit-chat was brief. My wife started to lick my nipples and run her fingernails down my chest and stomach. My friend didn’t seem uncomfortable, so my wife unzipped my pants and started playing with my hard cock. Then my friend started to lick my other nipple and rubbed her leg against mine. My wife pulled my pants off me and continued to play with me, I whispered into her ear, start sucking on my cock and then she can join you. My wife smiled and obliged. After a few moments of her amazing blowjob, I whispered into my friend’s ear, why don’t you give her some help down there? I could see her watching my wife, licking her lips. She looked at me shyly, and quietly said I was just going to. So I put my hands behind my head, and received the most enjoyable blowjob known to man. Watching as their tongues licked the head of my cock, and them taking turns sliding their soft mouths all the way down the shaft. Watching their hungry mouths working my cock was truly a sight I won’t forget. My friend started playing with my balls and they kept taking turns licking and sucking, I was sure I’d explode if I didn’t do something.

Would you like to feel that cock inside you? I asked my friend. She looked up at me, saliva and pre-cum dripping from her mouth, Yes, I would, she said quietly. My wife looked at her with her captivating eyes and said, you can have him tonight, I’d like to watch. I was pretty speechless, excited, and euphoric. I managed to speak, to ask her how she’d like to start. Having sex with only my wife, it’s pretty easy to have sex, start with this position, then that one, and another one, back to the first one, a new one or two and we’re pretty pleased. But I wasn’t sure what my friend was into. Do you want me to get on top or do you want to get on top of me? I asked her. Oh, can we just lay on our sides, with you behind me to start. I don’t like getting on top very much. That was fine with me, and so I lay with my front to her back, on our sides and slowly slid my cock into her tight warm pussy.

I kept rubbing my hands across her body, grabbing her little ass in my hand. I teased her pussy with my cock, slowly thrusting it in and sliding it out. She was getting very wet and started to moan very quietly. I’d like to get on top of you, she said. You don’t have to if you don’t want to. Oh I do want to, she said and straddled me as I rolled on to my back. She looked so good on top of me, her flat chest with little nipples, and a very flat stomach. My wife watched, getting very turned on, she lay beside me whispering very dirty things in my ear and licking and pinching my nipples. Do you like her little pussy? She looks amazing fucking you. Oh look you’re going to make her cum already. My friend was trying to suppress her moans, but she was in total ecstasy. I grabbed her tiny ass in my hands and put some force into her riding motion. She arched her back, her long hair hanging down to her ass, and grasped my balls in her hand, squeezing them gently as she rode me. My wife started to rub her hands down my friend’s back and played with her little erect nipples. She like watching this girl on my cock, it was turning her on so much. Then she slid her hands down my chest and started playing with this girl’s clit. It didn’t take long for her to start trembling at my wife’s touch as she rocked on my cock; the pleasure was so intense she had multiple orgasms while she rode me. I don’t think she’ll mind getting on top in the future.

It was quickly approaching the morning hours, and I think we all were getting tired, but this was just way too much fun. I told her to bend over and I was going to fuck her doggy-style. Seeing her little ass wiggling in front of me as I pounded my cock into her pussy was a total rush. I pushed her down onto her stomach and started thrusting into her harder and deeper and she had another stream of orgasms before I felt myself getting ready to cum. I fucked her harder and then pulled out to spray my cum all over her back and ass. Then I rolled off of her and lay beside her, and my wife held me and whispered into my ear, happy birthday sweetheart

#5  Lesbian Strap-On Love

A lot of lesbians traditionally thought that using a strap-on during sex alluded to penis envy – that really all you wanted was to sleep with a man and have penetrative sex all the time.

Well, thankfully times have changed and it’s almost the done thing for every lesbian couple to have one as standard. They may seem odd at first, but once you get used to them they can be great for using every so often as a treat or a little more often as a major part of your lovemaking sessions.

A strap-on is exactly what it says – basically, a strap-on dildo. All you do is use a dildo and hold it on with a harness, which is usually leather.

It’s important to get the right harness – you may be different sizes, so a leather adjustable one is great for beginners. You can really adjust things so it fits you both perfectly. It may take a bit of practice, but you’ll get there in no time at all. They are quite expensive, so choose wisely – but you can be safe in the knowledge that they will last a long time and serve your purpose well.

Once you have purchased your harness you need to make sure you have the correct dildo. You will probably already have one, but be sure to have one that suits both of you rather than trying a ‘one size fits all’ approach. You may need completely different sizes and if you don’t take this into consideration, it could be very painful for one and very disappointing for the other.

Once you have all the equipment you need it’s time to start getting the technique right. At first it may seem hard to get around the fact that you can’t actually feel anything if you are the one wearing the harness. You need therefore to have good communication with your partner. She needs to talk to you at all times about how it feels and what she wants you to do.

A good starting position would be with her on top. Let her lower herself gently onto the dildo – use some lube if needed – and then let her move as she likes on top. Once she gets a rhythm going, you can start to join in by gently thrusting your hips into her.

Hold onto her hips for stability and be sure not to push too hard or too fast at first, but do take her lead as and when is necessary. Once she becomes confident using it, you can then move into other positions such as the missionary and from behind.

It’s important to remember that everyone has different needs and desires when it comes to penetrative sex, so just take it easy until you both learn what each other enjoys. You don’t have to go at it great guns for it to be enjoyable, but if you do want that eventually, you will find the confidence to be trying sex in all the different positions.

You may find that you both enjoy it so much that you’ll be using it more often than not – and don’t worry, it doesn’t make you any less of a lesbian if you enjoy penetrative sex with a strap-on. It just means it leaves your hands free to enjoy the rest of her body without worrying about not pleasuring her.

Remember that it is a fun experience, and it won’t go perfectly at first, but the fun is definitely in the trying! After all, practice does make perfect! 

#6 Sex positions - reverse oral

Here’s a simple variation on a traditional theme of cunnilingus that should be easy enough for both of you.

Instead of going down on her with her on her back and your head between her legs, try flipping her on to her front with her legs over your shoulders. You can then lick her out from behind, which will stimulate different parts of her vagina. You will be able to get your tongue deeper inside her, which means you can stimulate the G-spot that is difficult to reach with conventional cunnilingus.

#7 Sex positions - from behind

If you want a position that will leave her wanting more, then this is it!The best part about taking her from behind, is that you control just how she feels. The even better part is that with one hand free, you can put that to better use!As she is on all fours, use one hand to gently penetrate her. Once your fingers (or toy) are inside her, stroke her clit gently with your free hand. You can now choose how deeply you want to penetrate her and how you much you want to stroke her clit. This can actually be a very intimate position, as you can press your body to hers as reaches orgasm and slowly turn her over.

#8 Intimacy: loving your shadow

What draws us, even compels us, to love and desire one person rather than another? There will, no doubt, be a range of superficial similarities: points of connection, looks, attitudes and interests shared. But that’s the case with our friends as well – and we do not usually look at our friends in the same way we regard our lover. One convincing theory is that we see in our lover what could be termed a point of difference, or the embodiment of aspects of ourselves and of our own potential which are not fully accessible to us or with which we are not reconciled – and to which we feel closer when we are with that lover. It could be said that when we desire we see through a glass darkly.

The rules of attraction

There is a wide range of influences over our initial sense of sexual attraction to another person. Their looks, for example, are likely to be close in some way to our own and those of our nearest relatives, those who first taught us to love, and also to those of former lovers. The moment we meet them matters: incidental, circumstantial details can dictate whether or not two people get off to a flying start or barely exchange a look or a word. And the points of connection do matter: they form the basis of our first conversations and help determine whether or not we feel this is an interesting person and one with whom we’ll get on.

But then there is desire, which goes far beyond the attraction to surface detail. If you described for yourself the key psychological traits you have loved in each of your lovers, you might well find you are describing a part of yourself that you aren’t quite in tune with – or something you lack.

This has bearings on how you conduct and succeed in your relationships and how, within relationships, you succeed or fail in being intimate with your lover.

Here is one example. A man find himself drawn to men, especially younger men, who have something of a self-centred streak about them. When his relationships are not going well, he bemoans the ‘fact’ that they only seem to care about themselves, won’t put out to take care of his needs and wishes, only ever do what they want to do and seem unable to empathise with others – save on a heavily, ‘deeply deep’ level, accompanied, as it were, by sweeping, romantic soundtracks, as in Hollywood films. No prizes for guessing that this man is someway apart from the centre of himself, is uncomfortable with his own deepest emotions – has something of a nervous disposition, as it happens – and ‘uses’ his lovers to heal this gap within himself.

A second example. Two men are in a long-term relationship. We’ll call them Todd and Guy. They are 29 and 26 respectively. They row a lot. It would be an understatement to say that Guy has something of a wild streak. At the age of fifteen he basically decided he was going to live it up. (He has recently returned to school.) Todd, on the other hand, spent his adolescence in relative isolation. He doesn’t talk about those years: it wasn’t a happy time. Now he is exceptionally level headed, pulls in a six figure income and has life pretty much planned. An odd couple. What’s kept them together so long? Well, yes: each has something in his personality the other doesn’t quite have. For all the high-tension dynamics of this relation, that difference means this couple are mutually drawn.

One way of interpreting this ‘rule’ of attraction is to acknowledge that relationships give us huge opportunities to grow and develop as people. How boring, indeed deathly, it would be if were partnered with someone exactly the same as us. We’d risk never becoming more than we are already. We’d ossify. By being paired with people who have in the foreground of their personalities those traits with which we are not entirely comfortable, or which we’ve never experienced, in ourselves, we are given the chance to develop those sides of our own personalities – supported by the presence of our partner.

Conflict and intimacy

It is partly because of these differences between us – and, specifically, because the differences are of personality traits which are vitally important to us – that there is likely to be an element of conflict within relationships. This is not to say that we’ll inevitably row, or that rowing is healthy; it is to say that conflict can arise in the presence of our partner precisely when we are most aware of those traits that are actually drawing us to him.

Once this is understood, the experience of conflict can actually help to draw us closer to our lover and to be more intimate.

This requires a degree of inner strength and also emotional maturity. It is asking you to look within yourself for the quality you see in your lover – or for the relative lack of that quality. In other words, you need to be honest with yourself about yourself.

To return to our first example, one thing the man in question needs to do is to reflect upon his own emotional centre. He could take time sitting quietly, breathing deeply, relaxing and letting himself settle – within whatever thoughts, feelings, desires and remembered experiences he finds at the centre of his being. This will not obviate the love of and desire for his partner – the personality of each will always be differently emphasised. It will help him to find his way closer to his lover. Crucially, it will help prevent him flying to an opposite, radically de-centred extreme when the ‘self-centredness’ he finds in his partner becomes all too much to bear, because so alien and, to him, difficult.

In other words, where there is a conflict of personalities, within a loving relationship, the root source of that conflict needs to be located and resolved within the individual.

Where this process is engaged in, self-acceptance can be more fully achieved, essential if we are to allow ourselves to feel intimate and to allow other people to be intimate – bonded in deepest silence – with us.

Short term relationships – and beyond

It is useful at this point to remark on those brief relationships which often take place when we are young and only just emerging as a sexually active being.

It could be said here, that in these brief, emotionally super-charged affairs, we are seeking to gather experience, as much as we can and as immediately as possible, so as to grow ourselves. We are pre-programmed to reach out into life and seize it, all of it, as much as we possibly can.

The experiences, aspects of personality, we seek are often fairly rapidly gained at this point – at least, as much of them as we want at this stage. We fall in and out of love, partly because the draw or attraction is often relatively superficial in comparison to the attachments we later seek.

There is nothing wrong with this. It is a natural part of growing up. Still, to many, there comes the point where we do seek more permanent relationships – and have indeed found ourselves consistently drawn to similar personality ‘types’.

At that point, for the relationships to succeed, an understanding of how our lovers’ psychologies are working, of these rules of attraction, can, to say the least, help.

#9 Tips for a loving Christmas

Christmas is a sensual time of year. We’re bombarded with smells, colours and seasonal tastes, all enticing us to spend, spend, spend – and indulge. So, with your lover, indulge.

Fantasise

On your way home, think about ways you could treat your partner. Simply allowing your thoughts to dwell on your partner can be a great way of renewing your sense of the value of your relationship – and of where your love life might be heading next! The dark evenings are fantasy spaces. Lose yourself in a winter wonderland reverie, just as you did as a child, but make your fantasies adult!

Treat your partner

Give way to temptation when you pass the shops: gifts don’t have to be saved up for Christmas day. Unexpected flowers or a bottle of champagne show your partner your thoughts have been with them – and set the tone for a romantic night in ahead. Yep, just taking time in to be with each other is romantic.

A word of caution: gifts of sex toys might need discussing with your partner in advance. And, men, if you're buying sexy lingerie, make sure it is the sort of quality product she'll like - and would buy for herself. Still, there's no need to be too shy: on the day itself, a gift of a book about sex can get you both giggling – and pave the way for some pre-parental-visit fun!

Nest and cuddle

While the summer season takes us outdoors, the nesting instinct can tend to be stronger at Christmas. Simply cuddling up with your partner in front of the TV can be great, but there’s room to be more loving than that! Switch it off. Play music instead – and drop the carols in favour of raunchy love tracks or gooey romantic ballads, or try opera.

Hold your partner. Lose yourselves in each other. You don’t have to be having sex all the time! Prolonged physical contact, loving touch and kissing help to get you feeling bonded and close. For massage, try using oils scented like Christmas cake. Show your partner you love just being with them.

Create your Christmas love grotto

When you’re preparing the house to look Christmassy, use fun, glitzy decorations, sure, especially if you have children, but keep the bedroom, at the very least, sensual. When the rest of the world goes mad, this is your safe space, your love grotto.

You might use candles for subtle, warm lighting, or try fairy lights, which will let you see each other without being overwhelming. Bring some evergreen leaves in and use potpourri. Above the bed, try hanging a sexy advent calendar, each box for each day containing a request – or demand – for techniques and positions you’d like to try with your partner that day!

Commitment

Use Christmas and the turning of the year as a chance to recommit to your relationship. Just as, individually, you might look back on the year gone and anticipate the next year to follow, so celebrate the time lived so far with your partner, and enjoy the thought of your relationship maturing further. Plan for the year ahead. There might be significant life-steps to contemplate, or just a holiday destination you’d like to visit. Share aspirations with your partner.

Don't stress!

And relax. If it’s all in danger of becoming too hectic, stuff the turkey and take yourselves off for a chilled out walk. Drop the kids off at grandma’s and go to the pub – though avoid excess alcohol, which can tend to be anything other than calming. Plan the Christmas day chores in advance to avoid getting stressed – and make sure the visiting arrangements are the result of discussion and compromise, not imposed by one on the other.

#10 Combating sexual boredom

If you are basically happy with the quality of your life together, then you have all the more reason for examining the causes of sexual tedium. It’s possible you’re bored because sex has become too predictable. If you’ve developed an unvarying routine, or have a very narrow sexual repertoire, then it’s not surprising a sense of ‘sameness’ has set in. Find more varied ways of sexually arousing each other. Use this site to give you suggestions – about new sex positions, new ways of pleasing and arousing each other during foreplay, and new styles of sex-play generally.

However, if you’re bored in spite of the fact that you’ve always been sexually innovative, exploring all manner of sexual possibilities, then you probably have a fantasy notion of what sex should be. If so, it’s time to modify your expectations and accept sexual reality – of which, more below.

Breaking your sex routine

Changing a long-established sexual routine isn’t easy. After year upon year of the missionary position, to suggest it’s time for woman-on-top might seem too revolutionary. You’ll both need, first of all, to accept the idea of change: as long as you both take it for granted that this is the way things are done, you’ll go on doing them that way. Then bring about small or subtle changes into your routine, simply leaving the light on one day, for example, if you usually make love in the dark. Start small and you’ll develop the confidence and frame of mind to be more adventurous.

When you discuss such changes with your partner, be careful not to make it seem as if you’re offering criticism. The rut you’ve got into isn’t exclusively the fault of one or the other of you. You’ve never suggested change; neither has your partner.

Expressing your needs

Your fantasies and daydreams are a good way of finding out about the kinds of sexual activity you’d like to try. So, too, are past sexual experiences you’ve really enjoyed. It’s a good idea to talk to your partner about something in theory before you put it into practice, to give them time to get used to the idea and perhaps overcome any inhibitions. This is especially important if what you suggest is going to seem unconventional.

If you’d like your partner to do something for you, one way of indicating this is to do it, or something similar, for them. This kind of non-verbal communication can be very useful if you find it hard to put your sexual wishes into words. Most important of all, if your partner is very resistant to the idea of change, don’t press it, at least for the moment. Reassure your partner: it’s because you enjoy sex with your partner and value the relationship that you want to keep the former as exciting as you can. 

#11 How long should orgasm take?

I'm worried that I am not normal because it always takes around 30 minutes for me to come when my boyfriend goes down on me. I've always been like this with all the boyfriends I've had but this is the first time I've worried about it as my boyfriend said that all his ex girlfriends only used to take about 10 minutes. I thought everyone took as long as me. I do enjoy it so I'm confused why it takes me so long? Can you help?

The orbit  replies:

Sexual response varies from woman to woman and half an hour is by no means unusual. It's worth bearing in mind that certain things can delay orgasm, including alcohol, stress or drugs. It may also be that your partner isn't hitting the right buttons for you. Have you talked to him about what really gets you off – or even moaned in the right places? If not, have a chat to him about it. Commenting on people's sexual technique has to be done carefully as most people are a little insecure about it. Try asking him if there's anything you could do that he'd particularly like then introduce a few points of your own.

It's certainly not very sensitive of your lover to compare you to his exes. Admittedly, some women can come in ten minutes - but some women take a lot longer than half an hour. He needs to realise that all women are different.

If you want to speed things up, try adding fingers or a toy to the equation; a vibrator plus tongue is a great experience. Tell him when he hits the spots that really get you going. Most importantly, don't focus on coming. Orgasms tend to be stubborn – the more you think about them, the more elusive they are.

Don't get het up about it. You're absolutely normal. Let your partner know what you like with sighs, moans, whatever! Add some extra stimulation and if your boyfriend insists on talking about his previous lovers, ask him if he wants you to start comparing him to your exes.